Christina Aguilera: Why I Filed for Divorce

Christina Aguilera remembers vividly how she felt as she signed the papers in her divorce from music exec Jordan Bratman.

"Things were so unhealthy and unhappy for both Jordan and me, I knew I had to end it," the Burlesque star, 29, tells PEOPLE in an exclusive interview. "I really didn't want to hurt Jordan, and I felt torn about splitting our family up."

The decision to end her marriage of five years was not easy for Aguilera, but she strongly felt she had to do what she thought best for her and Jordan's 2-year-old son.

"When you're unhappy in your marriage, your children are the ones who suffer," says the Grammy-winning pop singer, whose own parents' tumultuous relationship led to divorce when she was 7. "That's the last thing I wanted for my son."

Since filing for divorce, Aguilera has been out in Los Angeles and New York City with a new man, Matthew Rutler, a set assistant on Burlesque.

"He's the kind of person you could spend hours with on the phone talking to and all of a sudden it's daylight," she says.

Credit: People

Christina Aguilera: Exploited By Her Man's Band

Christina Aguilera is the best thing that ever happened to her new boyfriend's band -- and they know it -- because they quickly plastered her name all over their website in an apparent effort to gain exposure.

Right after the news broke that Matt Rutler was getting all cozy with Christina -- the guys from the Nate Mott Band posted Xtina's name and Matt's name all over the "Tags" section of their homepage -- hoping to increase the likelihood that anyone doing a Google search for those two will find their band's website.

But, it seems somebody wasn't happy with the coattail riding ... because the Christina-related tags have since been removed from the website.

Christina couldn't have been too upset -- because she accompanied Matt to a bar in Newport Beach, CA on Sunday to watch her new man jam out a few songs with another one of the guys from the band.

Credit: TMZ

Christina Aguilera Opens Up About Her New Man

It's been just six weeks since Christina Aguilera announced her divorce, but the singer is wasting no time being single, already announcing she's in love.

In a candid interview with People magazine, Aguilera has opened up about her split from husband Jordan Bratman and surprisingly revealed she's fallen for another man.

The blonde star is talking about Matthew Rutler, a set assistant on her new movie, Burlesque, who she has been photographed with numerous times since her break up.

When asked if she is in love, Aguilera said: "There's a love there, yes. I'm having fun, I'm dating and it's something I haven't had in a really long time."

Rutler's mother, Kathleen, spoke exclusively to Radar Online and denied they were anything but friends.

But Aguilera has now revealed they began dating right after she filed for divorce.

"Matthew is a special person. We had a really strong friendship on the movie," she said. "He's the kind of person you could spend hours on the phone talking to and all of a sudden it's daylight.

"Once I filed for divorce, we started dating. I'm not trying to jump into anything. I just left a five-year marriage. I'm taking it slow and trying to be happy."

And she isn't ruling out tying the knot again.

"Wholeheartedly. I know one day I'll be able to feel that again for someone. That idea will never die."

Credit: Radar Online

Christina Aguilera Meets New Guy's Mom

Christina Aguilera has been spending time with her new guy Matt Rutler – and his family.

Aguilera, who recently filed for divorce from husband Jordan Bratman, had a festive night out with Rutler at the Abbey in West Hollywood on Nov. 24. The couple were seen dancing, according to an onlooker, who added: "Christina was in a great mood and seemed very into Matt."

Aguilera, 29, spent Thanksgiving in Los Angeles with friends. Then after the holiday, the singer and Rutler, who worked as a set assistant on her film Burlesque, jetted to New York, while her son Max stayed with his dad for the holiday weekend.

"This is the first Thanksgiving she was without Max," says a source. "It was really hard for her and she was feeling sad, so she decided to go to the East Coast with Matt and a group of friends."

On Saturday, Aguilera, Rutler and a few pals went to Rhode Island for a spontaneous visit to Rutler's family home where they spent time with his mom, Kathleen.

"Since his family lives so close, they decided to drop in for a few hours," says the source.

But the source insists that meeting the family doesn't mean Aguilera and Rutler are getting more serious. "They’re still getting to know each other better," says the source.

Credit: People

Christina Aguilera & Matthew Rutler's NYC Date

Spending the holiday weekend in the Big Apple, Christina Aguilera and her new beau Matthew Rutler were spotted together in New York City on Saturday night (November 27).

After chowing down on dinner at the Corner Deli, the cute couple held hands as they headed to the Boom Boom Room, where they partied until 3AM.

Credit: Celebrity Gossip

Christina Aguilera & Matthew Rutler's Date Night

Back out with her rumored new flame, Christina Aguilera was spotted alongside Matthew Rutler at The Abbey in Los Angeles on Wednesday night (November 24).

The recently divorced singer/actress held hands with her date for the evening, as the pair have been spotted out together numerous times after having first met on the set of Christina's new movie "Burlesque".

Credit: Celebrity Gossip

Christina Aguilera Holds Hands With New Guy

Is Christina Aguilera ready to go public with her rebound man?

In Los Angeles Sunday, the star -- who filed for divorce from Jordan Bratman last month -- was photographed in L.A. holding hands with new guy Matt Rutler, a set assistant whom she met while making Burlesque.

It's definitely progress for the duo: The last time Rutler stepped out with Aguilera, 29 (during a Nov. 5 outing at L.A.'s Soho House with Nicole Richie and Joel Madden), he attempted to hide from the cameras.

"They've been on a few dates," a source told Us Magazine earlier this month, explaining that they reconnected after Aguilera's September separation from Bratman, her husband of five years.

Cautioned the source: "She's not looking to jump into a relationship right now. She...is focusing on spending as much time as possible with Max," her two-year-old son with Bratman, 33.

Rutler has been "really good for her and is helping her through this difficult time," adds the insider.

Credit: Us Magazine

Christina Aguilera Talks About "Love of My Life"

Although she filed for divorce from Jordan Bratman last month after five years of marriage, Christina Aguilera doesn't have to go it alone.

The Burlesque star, 29, admits there's "just a little bit" going on in her life now on Friday's Ellen DeGeneres Show -- but she gets solace from a special guy in her life.

No, not set assistant Matthew Rutler (they have been on "a few dates," according to a source) -- her little boy Max, 2!

"He's the love of my life," Aguilera gushes. "I adore him and he's such a character and he's so happy and at the end of the day, that's what's most important."

The star adds that her son with Bratman is "my focus first and foremost...More power to single moms and those out there doing it. I was raised by a single mom."

(Indeed, an insider told Us of Aguilera's fledgling romance with Rutler: "It's not serious. She's not looking to jump into a relationship right now. She has a lot going on with the movie and is focusing on spending as much time as possible with Max.")

Aguilera also reaches a major milestone on Dec. 18: her 30th birthday!

"It's better than turning 20, I'll tell you that," she tells Ellen DeGeneres. "You're more comfortable in your own skin as a woman. You have a better idea of what you want and how to get it. At this time in my life, it's a huge turning point, it's a transitional stage and I'm ready. I'm ready."

Credit: Us Magazine

Christina's Getting "Help Through" Hard Times

Ain't no other man like...Matthew Rutlet?

Weeks after her announced split from husband Jordan Bratman, Christina Aguilera has been seeking comfort in a brand-new guy: Matthew Rutlet, a set assistant whom she met while making her new film Burlesque.

"They've been on a few dates over the last few weeks," a source tells Us Magazine.

Indeed, despite his attempts to hide, Rutler was photographed escorting Aguilera, 29, on a Friday double date at L.A.'s Soho House with Nicole Richie and Joel Madden.

But, cautions the source: "It's not serious. She's not looking to jump into a relationship right now. She has a lot going on with the movie and is focusing on spending as much time as possible with Max."

Wed in 2005, the singer and producer Bratman, 33, have a two-year-old son, Max.

Aguilera and Rutlet befriended one another while making Burlesque, and reconnected after her September separation from Bratman.

"He's been really good for her and is helping her through this diffcult time," the source explains.

Credit: Us Magazine